I was invited to speak at a marriage seminar. During my teaching session, I asked the audience how many of them had a healthy partner. Many raised their hands. I selected one of them and asked her to share her experience, using her marriage to explain in practical terms.
Here’s her story and explanation for you to learn from:
“We have been married for ten years. Our relationship isn’t perfect, but it stands out because of how we complement each other. Here are some of the tips that have helped us build such a strong bond:
Emotional Maturity
“My husband’s emotional maturity has saved our relationship many times. I remember one time when I was upset about work and lashed out at him. Instead of reacting, he calmly asked what was wrong and listened.”
From her story, you can see that a healthy partner understands your emotions and communicates openly, creating space for growth and understanding.
Empathy
“When my husband’s business was struggling, I didn’t just encourage him—I tried to understand his struggles. I asked myself this question, “If you are the one whose business was struggling, how will you want him to treat you? Answering this question honestly helped me to support him wholeheartedly. I didn’t judge him; I stood by him.”
Empathy allows partners to see the world through each other’s eyes, fostering deeper connections.
Trustworthiness
“Trust is the currency of relationships, and both of us have invested heavily in it. Even when we’re apart, I know my husband has my back. There’s no room for suspicion because he’s consistent in his actions and words. Who he is with me, is who he is when I am not with him.”
A healthy partner values trust, knowing it’s the foundation of any lasting relationship.
Communication Skills
“I love relationship meetings. When we started our life together, my husband insisted that we have regular and periodic meetings where we discussed different aspects of our lives and relationship. He used to tease me because I was very reluctant to hae such conversations. At first, I thought it was too much, but now I realize how they’ve helped us tackle issues before they become problems.”
Healthy partners communicate effectively, listen actively, and don’t shy away from difficult conversations.
Respect for Boundaries
“One of my favorite qualities in my husband is how he respects my individuality. He encourages me to have my ‘me time’ and never pressures me into doing things I’m uncomfortable with.”
A healthy partner respects boundaries, understanding that individuality strengthens the relationship.
Supportiveness
“My husband always speaks with pride about my support for his dreams. When he wanted to pursue a new career path, I became his biggest cheerleader. I believed in him, even when he doubted himself.”
A healthy partner stands by you, celebrates your victories, and lifts you during tough times.
In essence, a healthy partner is more than someone who loves you—they’re someone who helps you grow, respects you, and nurtures the bond you share. If you want a thriving relationship, look beyond surface-level attractions and focus on these qualities.
And remember, as much as you seek a healthy partner, you must also strive to be one. Love flourishes when two people commit to bringing their best selves into the relationship.
If you are single and want more guidance on how to identify a genuine partner register for the Get Yourself Ready For Marriage 12 Weeks Group Coaching Program.
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